How do I choose a marriage celebrant?

Elaine Spearman
Sep 24
2 min read

Great question – and a really important one!

Your celebrant sets the tone for your wedding ceremony, so choosing the right person is absolutely key. It’s a very personal decision and it’s extremely important that you have a wedding celebrant you like, trust, and feel comfortable with.

Whether you’re planning something simple or a full-on celebration, the right celebrant can make all the difference.

Most people choose a celebrant they already know, or someone recommended to them by a friend or colleague.

Start with the Basics: What Kind of Ceremony Do You Want?

Before you begin the search, take a moment to think about what sort of ceremony you’re dreaming of. Are you imagining something formal and traditional, relaxed and quirky, spiritual, or super short and sweet?

If you're planning a registry wedding, you'll need to choose from the official list on the Department of Internal Affairs website, but if you’re after a more personalised ceremony, your options are wide open.

Where Do I Find a Celebrant?

If you’re not sure where to begin, don’t worry – you’re not alone! Here are a few great places to start:

Ask around! Personal recommendations from friends, whānau, or colleagues can be gold.
Google is your friend – search for local celebrants and check out their websites and reviews.
Visit the Celebrants Aotearoa (CANZ) website – a great resource for professional celebrants across New Zealand.
Check the Department of Internal Affairs website for legally registered celebrants in your area.

What Should I Look for in a Celebrant?

Once you’ve got a shortlist, it’s time to chat. Most celebrants offer a no-obligation meeting so you can see if you click. Don’t be shy – this is your chance to find the perfect match!

Here are a few helpful questions to ask yourself after you’ve met with a potential celebrant:

✨ Do we connect?

✨ Do I feel relaxed and confident with them?

✨ Do they understand what we’re looking for?

✨ Can they offer the type of ceremony we want (e.g., formal, fun, bilingual, cultural)?

✨ Do they feel like a safe pair of hands for our big day?

It’s All About the Vibe

Ultimately, choosing a celebrant is a bit like choosing a friend to stand up with you on your big day. You want someone who "gets" you, who makes you feel comfortable, and who can guide you through the process with warmth and professionalism.

Once you’ve found your celebrant, you’ll likely build a special bond. Together, you’ll co-create a ceremony that reflects your relationship, your values, and your story.